I thought I passed through my midlife crisis already...
But without revealing too much information, I find myself in a tornado of major changes in my life. And as I head into this Valentine’s Day with the potential prospect of being on my own, I’ve been able to do a lot of thinking.
I’ve realized that being part of a couple has made me complacent. The time alone has made me realize that I’ve spent most of my energy on other people and not really myself.
I came across the article and heart-ily embraced it.
Here’s what I came away with….
See Yourself Through The Eyes of Someone Who Loves You
· Really grouchy first thing in the a.m. without coffee …this is why I learned how to make coffee at a young age, Mom
· Over-planner and over-estimater …consequently, always prepared…although, I don’t know why someone needs to worry about Plan Z
· Always asking the deep questions…c’mon, Mom, we’re just watching Gilmore Girls!
· My best friend…although, I can’t spend more than 12 hours with you….
I wouldn’t change a thing…
If There’s Something You Don’t Like About Yourself, Change It
· Stop overanalyzing things – I can’t control it so I need to just accept it instead of finding things to “explain” it
· Stop planning – learn from my past, hope for my future but LIVE in the PRESENT!
· My coffee addiction…I think this is why I overextend myself…
Fall in Love With Yourself by Working on Your Self-Trust
· Keep my promises to myself – how many times have I put off Yoga or postponed my ME (curling up on my couch with old Hitchcock movies) Days?
· I’ve done pretty great things in my life…so why am I second-guessing the last 8 years and trying to figure what I did wrong? I fell in love…I was a person in love…it might not work out…going back, I wouldn’t make any different decisions!
· No matter what the outcome, I need to bet on myself. Design a life that is fulfilled and not dependent on others. They’re just “icing on the cake”
Ask Yourself What You Need
· I need to simplify – no more shoe sprees or “things” – spend my money on experiences…travel, classes, anything that revs up my passions!
· I need authenticity! This crisis has brought many surprising reactions from my support group. I’m learning the meaning of true friendship and I will value and take care of those relationships.
· I need more positivity in my life. Being with people who constantly bring up the negative aspects of life and human kind has dragged me down a bit and that’s not really me at all. The “ME” I’m in love with is someone who wakes up excited to start a new day.
I feel better already.
In fact, since I’m now “dating” myself, I’m going to take myself out for a fancy coffee. But only one shot…after all, I don’t want to ruin the date…